"Our conversations invent us. Through our speech and our silence, we become smaller or larger selves. Through our speech and our silence, we diminish or enhance the other person, and we narrow or expand the possibilities between us. How we use our voice determines the quality of our relationships, who we are in the world, and what the world can be and might become. Clearly, a lot is at stake here."
Harriet Lerner, The Dance of Connection
Jennifer Abrams Consulting provides trainings, coaching, program design and consultative support to schools, hospitals and other organizations in the areas of instructional design, new employee support, supervision and evaluation, having hard conversations, generational savvy and the creation of collaborative cultures. Jennifer considers herself to be a "voice coach," helping others develop their identities and skill sets to best use their voices in a variety of professional environments.
This past month I facilitated groups who were getting ready for the school year. Go off to their first staff meetings, department meetings, district meetings. They were excited and readying themselves for the ‘beginning of school.’ They were also ‘steeling themselves’ for having to work again with ‘that person.’ The one who is pain to work with. The one who, ‘already’, will be stubborn, obstinate and not want to ‘go with the program.’
They knew from the get go who he or she was. “He wasn’t going to be easy.” “She wasn’t going to be agreeable.” Wherever I went, district to district, this person appeared. Folks were anxious. Unsure. Afraid.
The colleagues of whom they spoke of are sure of themselves and their ‘smarts.’ They can be cutting and loud. The way they interact when asked to collaborate ...Read More